The Independent

Confessions of a swinger: A kiss and tell story of sex in sin-city

Singapore has a veneer of being pristine and super clean but what lies beneath away from plain sight is a thriving underworld of sex and sin. We reported earlier that there are several social networking sites dedicated for swingers in Singapore – believe it or not, there are some twenty such groupings.

It is not a walk in the park for those who have ventured into this erotic world of sex and betrayal. Marriages are no longer sacrosanct and there are no boundaries in their relationships. They thrive in swapping their life partners for a moment of folly, or for immediate sexual gratifications, as some say.

The interlude starts over casual dinners or over some alcoholic drinks at pubs, KTV and dinner places.  They frequent KPO, Berlin, Shanghai Dolly and if they feel that they are sufficiently attracted to the other’s partners, it is all-systems-go! It ends up in a no-holds-barred full-on sex.

“First timers can be too aggressive thinking this is like a porn movie, girls can be roughed up a little,” said Dancing Queen, a female swinger who goes by this moniker.

And some of the girls joining such groups are misled into thinking that such a lifestyle is acceptable and in fact encouraged by their group leader Steven Tan.

Steven does get overly suspicious of new comers, “He often questions the sincerity of new members joining the group, is extremely rude, and is constantly questioning about how we got to know about the group, about if we swinged before.”

Dancing Queen reckons that swinging is not for everyone. (Obviously!)

She cautions that relationships have broken down when guys “stray after that” and indulge excessively in such a lifestyle. (What were their female partners thinking?)

Another girl, going by the online moniker Wabit Wabit, wrote to this publication that she has been outed for her lifestyle and her group leader, Steven seems unapologetic and in fact was involved in another tryst on Saturday night.

Hi, With regards to this article, I am one of the affected persons .

Not only are the organisers not sorry that our personal details have been leaked, they are still recruiting new members for their parties. Parties advertised on the pretext of just drinking and eating.

They have even sought to engage photographers to their events.

They have admitted that they have been kicked out of other swinging groups. I guess it’s their callous behaviour that got them kicked out.

Even yesterday they organised another “get together” as can be seen from their website.

They have no shame, no care for others feelings and as such I do not see why they should not be exposed for the people that they are.

A quick check on the Internet shows that Steven Tan is the owner of the website

We do not know how many young girls are drawn to this cult group and if the girls are of legal age. However, that seemed to be a concern to the two female swingers who wrote to us on condition of anonymity.

The government was quick to ban Ashleymadison.com a similar website from Canada but local sites like leswingerslounge.com are flying under the radar.

Also read: http://www.theindependent.sg/with-the-rise-of-social-media-sleaze-clubs-thrive-in-singapore/