“I told my sons when you date a girl, it is very important to look at her mother” – Vivian Balakrishnan

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Foreign Minister Vivian Balakrishnan celebrated his 30th wedding anniversary recently and took to Facebook to share his insights on marriage on happiness on Wednesday.

Sharing a video of his speech during his daughter’s wedding 3 years ago, Balakrishnan said, “We just celebrated our 30th anniversary. 4 children, 2 grandchildren later – this is what real happiness means.”

In his speech, Balakrishnan shared that he urged his sons, “when you date a girl, it is very important to look at her mother” because you can envision what the girl might look like in a few years based on how her mother looks.

Pointing to his wife who was by his side as he spoke, Balakrishnan quipped that his son-in-law has made a good choice in marrying his daughter. Nodding to his smiling wife, Joy, Balakrishnan said, “I think you will all agree with me, Nathaniel (his son-in-law) has chosen well.”

The Minister spoke about the mixed feelings of giving his daughter away, how to sustain a marriage and the joys of parenthood. Among other insights, he advised:

“The most important gift you can give your children is to love their mother.”
“Children need that sense of absolute security from knowing that their parents love each other.
“Children need the role model of parents who love each other and are committed for a lifetime
“In a day and age of instant gratification, these old-fashioned values of commitment for the long term, loving your partner and making it a life’s enterprise, I think this is even more essential in this day and age.”

He added that it is important to “pay love forward to the next generation”:

Wedding speech

We just celebrated our 30th anniversary. 4 children, 2 grandchildren later – this is what real happiness means.Sharing my views on happiness and marriage during a speech I made at my daughter's wedding 3 years ago.

Posted by Vivian Balakrishnan on Tuesday, 28 November 2017

Netizens flooded the Minister’s page with congratulatory messages:

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    Bijay Tay ( User Karma: 0 ) says:

    One wise man said, “Don’t hate your mother-in-law, because your wife would look like her in future”
    VB gave the correct advise. Never marry a girl whose mother is Queen-Control because she was brought up under that environment and will most probably behave the same way.

  2. Happiness is not how much money you have but whether you have a person who loves you nonetheless.

    If you think you can only have happiness if you’re rich, well, it’ll not be real happiness.

    Congratulations for making to 3 decades! Let those who have made it so far be your critics, all others are just making excuses for themselves in case they fail. It’s always someone else’s fault and not theirs.

  3. KL Yeo says:

    You forgot to thank all the taxpayers in Singapore that has paid you handsomely (but unwillingly) that made you what you are today! Without us, you are NOTHING!

  4. I told my 3 sons don’t ever respect a person who don’t admit their mistake and go pinpoint other ppl mistake, and lastly don’t vote tis kind of leaders wen u got the chance to vote!!!!!

  5. Peter Lim says:

    “Mum talking to his son. To be successful you must have 3 things. ”
    First is money.
    Second is money.
    Third is money.
    Once you have all the three above. You will be the most powerful man. Your boss have those. You have achieved the second condition, now go for the third.

  6. Compared to Dr CSJ of SDP, he’s a flop……joining a team that crushed all Opposition to really feel challenged, even a secondary school boy will turn out to be winner.

  7. Whats all this really about Vivian? Advertising how great a husband, father and father in law you are? How nice your family look collectively with you? Seriously, there are more important issues to deal with than this ownself advertise ownself family and how great a Godfather part 4 you think you really are.

  8. Yup. U paid yourself millions with poor people’s money so that other families need to slog till die while your family live a luxurious and happy life. Wish u whole family have a happy dead endings soon.

  9. Excellent advice:
    “The most important gift you can give your children is to love their mother.”

    “Children need that sense of absolute security from knowing that their parents love each other.

    “Children need the role model of parents who love each other and are committed for a lifetime

    “In a day and age of instant gratification, these old-fashioned values of commitment for the long term, loving your partner and making it a life’s enterprise, I think this is even more essential in this day and age.”

  10. Rey Lee says:

    If u r not earning enuf, in poverty, u can call this real happiness? .. Dun just cast false hope. Money is vital in Sg. U earn millions can talk about happiness…. Lol…

  11. hey me bad .. not jealous or anything but don’t talk cock n sing your own songs.. Singapore has changed a lot thanks to the ELITE CONTROL AND MANIPULATION. SO SING ONLY TO YOURSELF MR SO CALLED MINISTER.

  12. Kris Chee says:

    If you are a cardboard collector, food court or toilet cleaner, will you say the same thing? Overspent on YOG bo taichi n still continue to draw millions.

    1. Kris Chee says:

      Christina Wong l am more wicked than u. LOL I pray the PLP cant even be cardboard collectors, food court/toilet cleaners or even tissue paper sellers as the poorer foreign talents will take up all these jobs.

      These PLPs will be beggars or dig from 800k dustbin for food hahahaha.

    2. Please pray for this PAP IB to become like One of them ….he do not worship money? May He and his descendants be a happy cardboard collector, foodcourt cleaner, toilet cleaner and security guard, happily live on a miserable $1,000 salary a month.

    1. Smooth passport his credit meh?! Smooth passport NONE of the current list of multi million dollar useless ministers credit!!! It’s All due to the credit of Singapore 1st generation leaders!!! Next time? talk cock lah next time!!!

    2. Next time you travel and you get smooth passage because you hold a Singapore passport, or if you’re stranded overseas. MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT ASK FOR HELP from the guy and his ‘doing nothing’ ministry.

  13. Colin Chan says:

    Are you trying to teach a lesson to:

    PAP guys who eat outside…

    PAP guys who are in the midst of divorce…

    PAP guys who ditch the old ones for SYT….

    Wow…

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      rlsh2017 ( User Karma: 0 ) says:

      His own mother lah. If don’t have any, all probably give up living being angered by these white termites

  14. When u can fuck up your job every where u get posted to and and lose taxpayers money like no bodys business and still cant get fired n continue to earn millions, thats what happiness is. If i were him, i would stay humble n quiet n keep off the radar screen as karma has a way of coming back to haunt u.

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    James Bong ( User Karma: 0 ) says:

    I always thought balakrishnan’s idea of happiness is a million dollar paycheck with many more millions in retirement funds courtesy of singapore taxpayers. Through lying and falsehood in his life, by selling his soul to the pap devil, he deserves the place in eternal hell fire where there is “weeping and gnashing of teeth” (his Lord Jesus’ words, not mine).

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